Earlier this week, Trent Mays and Ma’lik Richmond were found guilty of raping a 16-year-old girl. The media coverage of this case has been…honestly, it’s been pretty much what you’d expect, given the way we treat rape in this country. That coverage is being justifiably condemned for the pathetic, victim-blaming, rape-apologetic bullshit it is.
Trigger warning for rape and lots of Jim swearing after the cut…
Let’s start with a few excerpts from this transcript of CNN’s story on the verdict.
POPPY HARLOW, CNN CORRESPONDENT: I’ve never experienced anything like it, Candy. It was incredibly emotional — incredibly difficult even for an outsider like me to watch what happened as these two young men that had such promising futures, star football players, very good students, literally watched as they believe their life fell apart.
You know what? Harlow’s right. These were good students and talented athletes, with very promising futures. They were kids with a hell of a lot going for them. And they’re fucking rapists. These weren’t filthy, nasty-looking strangers hiding in the bushes. They’re “good” kids who’ve learned that girls are nothing but meat whose only purpose is to be screwed by guys. You don’t rape, photograph, and film a girl if you see her as a human being.
Why was this so hard to watch, Harlow? Was it that you felt sorry for these poor young rapists? Or was it that they forced you to recognize that the so-called “normal” kids can be rapists too?
TRENT MAYS, FOUND GUILTY OF RAPING IN JUVENILE COURT: I would really like to apologize to (INAUDIBLE), her family, my family and community. No pictures should have been sent out or should be taken. That’s all. Thank you.
You’re apologizing for taking the pictures??? I can’t even articulate a response beyond “Fuck you.”
MA’LIK RICHMOND, FOUND GUILTY OF RAPE IN JUVENILE COURT: I would like to apologize. I had no intention to do anything like that and I’m sorry to put you guys through this. (INAUDIBLE) I’m sorry.
You had no intention…I’m sure that’s tremendous comfort to the victim, to know that you “accidentally” raped her. Wait, who are the “guys” you’re apologizing to here? Are you sorry for committing rape, or are you sorry because you got caught and now you and your town look bad?
PAUL CALLAN, CNN LEGAL CONTRIBUTOR: …there’s always that moment of just lives are destroyed. And lives have already been destroyed by the crime. And we got a chance to see that. But in terms of what happens now, yes, the most severe thing with these young men is being labeled as registered sex offenders… That will haunt them for the rest of their lives.
“Being labeled”? Their actions label them rapists. Their choices are what should haunt them for the rest of their fucking lives. Don’t give us this passive-voice, everyone’s-a-victim bullshit.
KURTZ: And, you know, some of those pictures might not have been carried by the traditional media. That’s why social media is such an important pipeline here. Thanks for that.
Translation: Thanks, Twitter, for doing our fucking job for us!!!
CNN isn’t alone in their priorities, of course. Fox News included the following note in one of their stories about the case:
The Associated Press named the minors charged due to the fact they have been identified in other news coverage and their names were used in open court. FoxNews.com will not name the defendants.
This didn’t stop them from joining CNN and MSNBC in releasing the name of the victim.
Then you’ve got ABC News doing a story which spends an awful lot of time describing this flirtatious, drunk girl who wouldn’t listen to people who warned her not to get into a car with boys…
This is how we talk about rape in this culture. These are our priorities and assumptions. Those poor boys’ lives are ruined! It’s such a shame that this horrible crime just kind of happened, through no fault of anyone except maybe the victim who showed such poor judgment. They were such good boys with such promising futures…
The only unusual thing here is that the media is actually getting pushback for following their normal, victim-blaming, rape-apologizing playbook.
You want to reduce the number of rapes in this country? Teach boys and men to take some fucking responsibility for their action. Teach them what rape is, so maybe one of the bystanders will have the guts to speak up instead of standing around videotaping and taking pictures. Teach them that the natural consequence of a girl drinking too much is a hangover. Rape, on the other hand, is a consequence of a rapist choosing to commit rape!
And a special shoutout to the media–if you’re one of the reporters teaching people that the rapists were victims, then congratulations. Your bullshit reporting is laying the groundwork for the next Steubenville.
Mirrored from Jim C. Hines.










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They ruined their lives themselves. That girl didn't pass out on their dicks, then say she was raped. They CHOSE to take advantage of her situation. Part of being a decent human being, young or no, is to not do this shit. They brought it on their stupid selves. MSNBC has been condemning them rightly, at least, from what I've seen.
Thank you.
So I guess his pants just fell down in her vicinity and WHOOPSIE. These kids do not strike me as being sorry for what they did, from what they said. Very, very sorry they got caught, yes. But it still doesn't seem to have occurred to them that having sex with an unconscious girl is every shade of wrong.
Their lives haven't been ruined. They ruined their lives ,with their choices and their actions.
In the meantime, what of the girl they violated? How's she going to be regarded? How's she going to feel? How much shame will she be forced to carry as a result of being a victim of crime? How are her relationships going to be coloured from now on?
I just hope so very, very much that she is receiving the support, the counselling and the care she needs. I hope there will be decent people who won't point and whisper as she walks down the street, who won't spread lies about her at school, who won't blame her for ruining those boys' lives ...
The culture needs to change, and it needs to change completely.
On a lighter note, have your wife and children gotten used to you yelling at the TV? My husband is still startled after 35 years.
sorry. sore spot
So thank you, for saying what I think and probably should be saying but just can't right now.
Luckily, this will have no effect whatsoever on the rest of that girl's life.
*headdesk*
And thank you, for voicing my anger so eloquently.
http://www.independent.co.uk/voices/com
Edit: Also, when Hugo Schwyzer resigns from a site for not being good for feminism, it's bad. (And Hugo Schwyzer is notorious among a good many feminists for being a predator and all-around someone who needs to shut up get out of feminist spaces.)
Edited at 2013-03-20 12:41 pm (UTC)
Just, y'know, 'cause.
And this is why I don't like jock culture very much. It's at the intersection of "I'm important because I can throw a football/baseball/basketball" and "I can do whatever the hell I want because nobody will deny me."
Way to fucking not-pologize, boys. How does that song go? "Don't tell me you're sorry, 'cause you're not/ You know you're only sorry you got caught..."
Also, here's a great essay I just stumbled across: http://www.yesmagazine.org/happiness/af
And just to show how decent a human being the victim in this awful crime is (especially as compared to her rapists), in response to people wanting to give her money for legal expenses or counseling, she and her family are asking that people donate to a local shelter, Madden House, so that future victims receive the help they need.
Tumblr went absolutely nuts with this the day of the conviction, to my great joy. Page after page of anti-rape culture posts, many of which were awesome.
The only person who deserves sympathy here is the young woman. The two young men... No. They made that choice: they have to deal with the consequences. She didn't get a choice: she has to live with what they did to her. She's the one who the media should be wanting to support.
(I seem to be managing FB fine. :D )
And also that the proper organ for decision-making resides above their belts.
I am so sorry this girl was hurt like this - I hope she's getting whatever help she needs to heal.
That, and the boys actually were tried and convicted. Instead of the victim being swept under the rug. It's slow, but it's still progress.
“If you look at crime statistics, these things happen everywhere and we’re not any different than any other community,” Athletic Director Mike McKenna says BY WAY OF EXCUSE.
signal boosting a similar rant, while I'm at it : http://www.ctnewsjunkie.com/ctnj.php/ar